Be Soft Spoken

 Always speak to others in a manner that makes it a pleasurable experience for them. Your tone of voice should be calm and pleasant. Do not speak in anger or raise your voice.

Perfectionist Demands

 If your peace of mind depends on getting everything you want and having everything just perfect, this is a recipe for unhappiness. Why? Because no human being can sustain this perfection over any period of time! As soon as the situation changes and you find yourself missing things, your life will be full of suffering and worry.
To achieve constant peace of mind, master the ability of not desiring anything unrealistic.
Today, ask yourself: Do I demand perfection, or am I willing to give in to things which are beyond my control?

People as Models

Use the lives of great people as models for your own life. When you see the elevated behavior of people who achieved excellence, learn from them and walk in their footsteps. This will help you to be successful in all areas of your life.
Today, think of five great people you would like to emulate. As you reflect on these people, you will become more and more like them.

Avoid Extremes

 "When a person's heart breaks into a thousand pieces, and he is afraid he will become depressed, he should search for his positive qualities and praise himself. At other times, when he fears he might become conceited, he should search for his mistakes and faults."

Honor Is Temporary

 When a person feels sad because someone did not show him respect or give him approval, he can say to himself, "What will I actually gain if this person shows me respect or approval? And what do I really lose by his insulting me?"
The answer is: Nothing! Both honor and humiliation are very temporary states, and rarely make practical differences in our lives. So why get upset because someone failed to honor you?
Someone who internalizes the truth of this concept, will never feel sad about lack of honor or approval.

Positive Attitude

Positive use of imagery is very important for controlling one's feelings.
A person with a tendency toward sadness is likely to habitually imagine unpleasant scenes. When you find yourself visualizing negative scenes, make a conscious effort to imagine a positive one. Make a list of positive scenes you can focus on. Take a few minutes to actually experience the positive feelings of focusing on those scenes.

An Avoidable Worry

Oftentimes the calamities that people worry about never occur. Imagine: If you constantly worry about potential disasters, even if your life will work out perfectly in all respects, you will still live a life of suffering. Such suffering is entirely self-caused and unnecessary.
Whenever you catch yourself worrying about a potential negative event, ask yourself, "How do I know for sure this will occur?"